My take on Transgender Culture.
Here are the things I will do.
I will refer to you by your preferred pronouns (unless they are they/them or nonsense like zis/zir), even if you are not present. If I see you and you present yourself in a masculine or feminine manner, I will assume the pronouns that match your appearance. I see no reason to make a situation uncomfortable for anyone.
Here are the things I will not do.
I may refer to you as the gender of your choice, but I will not treat you as a member of that gender. For example, if you’re a biological male identifying as a woman, I won’t assume you’ve had the same lived experiences as someone born female—because you haven’t. I won’t play along with expectations that defy basic biology, like pretending a trans woman can menstruate or a trans man can father a child in the traditional sense. Respecting your identity doesn’t mean rewriting reality.
I’ll listen to you, I’ll be polite, but I won’t bend over backwards to validate every feeling or demand. Fairness cuts both ways—I’ve got my perspective too, and I’m not here to erase it for anyone’s comfort. That’s where I draw the line.
